in your own words

If you have a memory or a story you’d like to share about Shane Michael Sawick, please use the comment section below.  For any photos you’d like to have added, please use the email link on the home page and send your scan as an attachment.  Thank you!

11 Responses

  1. Elana

    I grew up with Shane and knew him since I was 6 months old. His mother Mary was my babysitter in a time when mothers stayed at home yet mine worked. I was the Sawick’s “4th child”, arriving daily at 6:30am, eating breakfast together, growing together, fighting together and even sharing our first day of school.

    Jill, Shane’s sister and I were born one month apart and Shane was just a year and a half older than us. I remember the three of us loving to play house. Each of us had our role and we couldn’t be happier. Shane was the mother, Jill was the father and I was the baby girl. When Mike, who was much older than us, was around, he would be the soldier. We would dress up, Shane in high heels and a dress. What a time we had. We each got to be who we wanted to be. I remember, however, always being on the lookout for when Shane’s father Nick would come home. As soon as the car tires hit the driveway, the mad scramble would begin getting Shane out of the dress and everything hidden as if nothing had occurred. One time we didn’t hear the car and Shane didn’t make it in time. It wasn’t a pretty sight.

    I didn’t understand then what was going on. This was just all so normal, except for getting in trouble. And I’m glad I didn’t understand because I grew up thinking that people just loved who they loved and it didn’t matter if it were the same sex or not. Mind you, this was the 60’s and the times were different. People, including Nick evolved through the years and as I can see from some of the pictures on this site, he accepted Shane wholeheartedly with love and deep affection.

    As an adult, I had little contact with Shane. He went off to L.A. and I went overseas on my own at 16 years old. We reconnected, via telephone through Mary, shortly after my daughter was born and then again when his father died. I was struck by his kindness and effort to make amends of childhood “wrongs” that were long forgotten, if they ever existed at all.

    I wish I had known Shane fully as an adult as so many of you did. But the special way I did know him will be part of me forever…the brother I never had…in the family that helped raise me…forever connected.

    September 6, 2014 at 4:45 pm

    • Hi Elana,
      Thank you so much for your note. It means a lot to know of others connection to Shane. I’ve given your email address to Jill, so that the two of you can communicate more regularly! Best wishes, Kergan

      September 8, 2014 at 9:06 am

  2. Suse

    As director of the intern program, I was privileged to work with Shane at West Coast Ensemble. What a talented guy, and what a sweetheart to work with. For his final presentation as an intern, he knocked a monologue from Lanford Wilson’s “Eukiah” right out of the park. Theatrical perfection. I had so looked forward to continuing our association as he moved into the company…and my heart broke when I heard of his passing.

    June 1, 2012 at 8:34 am

  3. John Sallot

    Oh, and I’m reading your book. Read the interview in the Advocate and bought it a while back. Just started it. Makes me a bit nervous as I’m reading about characters that I might know.

    Take care,


    April 25, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    • Let’s put it this way, there is a whole APLA section in there, with faces that might seem a bit familiar! Though, of course, all the names have been changed, to protect the–uh–innocent! Best wishes, K

      April 25, 2012 at 9:54 pm

  4. John Sallot

    Hi Kergan,

    John Sallot here – Buddy Program. I don’t know if you remember this…or if I remember it correctly, but I hand carried a note from Shane to you – from the Romaine Street building to the CNN building. I remember walking in and dropping it on your desk. I never asked Shane what was in the note, but I always assumed it led to your relationship. Perhaps this is overblown, but if I helped in any way, I’m glad.

    I do remember going to Ginger Rodgers Beach with Shane in his white Suzuki Samuri (sp?) and he had a pre-packed, ready to go, beach bag in the back. I thought he was IT!

    There’s lots of Shane memories – mostly work and talking as for several years our offices were a few feet apart.

    Hope you are well.


    April 25, 2012 at 9:47 pm

    • Hey John–I do remember! You are so sweet to remember, and it is great to reconnect with you. So glad they set up the FB group for APLA alum. Such an amazing and transformational time in my life.

      Best wishes to you!

      April 25, 2012 at 9:52 pm

  5. vivian alexopoulos

    kregen, this is so beautiful, as I was reading and I was crying. I miss Shane sooo much, every march 22, Aug. 18 and Christmas I visit his garve and put his fav.gladeolas on his stone. I stand there for a few and I just can’t belive he is gone, after 16 years I still can’t belive it. Shane and I had so much fun together. dancing every weekend at Joe’s and primetime, going to the NYC to the ice place. We loved playing tennis and shopping. So many laughs. We went to shows ate out………………..what fun. When he moved to LA, nothing changed, he just made sure I followed and I did for a short time, we just picked up where we left off and it all started again. When i moved back east, I remeber the day he called me to tell me he was HIV, we just cried and stayed silent on the phone. I can’t write anymore right now, all I know is I miss him.

    May 31, 2011 at 6:03 pm

  6. Shane was family, pure and simple. He was a blast to hang out with, and *really* sucked at camping! 😀 Somehow I managed not to be jealous of that big handsome mug (best nose, ever) and the fact that he looked amazing in a Speedo – mostly because he never really realized what a great looking guy he was. I miss him calling me ‘Stevie’ and that big ol’ smile. It was an honor to be his friend and be there with him right to the very end.

    May 30, 2011 at 10:41 am

  7. Greg Solem

    Shane and I met in the late 80’s while catering together, we became instant friends. He was the one that coined calling me “Gracie” after Gracie Allen the dinging comedienne, it has stuck with me to this day…hmmm…compliment? I like to think so, but I know Shane did it with his great sense of humor and the tremendous love he was always willing to share. I was with Shane when the Challenger exploded and I was stuck by how truly emotional and upset that got Shane, but that was Shane heart on his sleeve, full of love and kindness, loved life, lived life to it’s fullest. A day did not go by that he and I didn’t talk, I miss him terribly, yet know he is happy in an existence of Christmases and never ending Broadway tunes. I love you Shane!

    May 30, 2011 at 10:26 am

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